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The Happiness Effect

HappinessWhat is the happiness effect? Happiness. Everyone wants it. There’s no denying that. Some people seem to have it more than others. Why is that? It’s because they care about being happy and are mindful of it. Happiness will come to people who want it. If you are unhappy it is a sign that you are not open to the thought it. What can you do to change this attitude? Be more aware of how you feel. I guarantee that if you do, the happiness effect will take over your life in a positive way.

Happiness Attracts Positive People

By being genuinely happy, more people will flock to you. They will sense the enthusiasm in your life and want to be surrounded by that positive energy. People do not want to hang around someone who is mopey and constantly complaining about their life. It brings each other down. You want to be with others who are vibrant and speak positively of their environment and the life they lead. If you find yourself around negative personalities, it might rub off on you. Analyze your social groups of friends and limit your engagement with those you deem bad seeds because they can have a detrimental effect on your happiness.

Happiness Makes You Grateful

Happy people are generally those of us aware of the concept of gratitude. They appreciate the life they have been given and do not take things for granted. They are aware of how lucky they are and set aside time to recognize this fact. If you want to be happy, learn to accept what you have in the here and now. Whatever stresses or desires you may have for the future, set it aside and feel the love and comforts you have in the current state. Gratitude will shift your mindset in a positive direction and in turn will make you happier.

Happiness Boosts Your Confidence

When you are happy, you emit confidence. People see you as having a stable life and sure of themselves. I know when I go to a social setting and see people with wide smiles, they are having a great time and soaking the moment in. They display confidence when speaking to others because they do not fear being judged. Happiness raises your self-esteem and makes you feel proud of all the good qualities you have. If you lack confidence, then it might mean you are lacking happiness as well, so learn to be happy with who you are.

I love seeing positive energy anywhere I go. We all want each other to be enthusiastic about their lives and want to help get each other to that state of happiness we all deserve. There is far too much negative energy in this world and no one wants to see people fail. Think about all the positive effects that being happy can have on your life and you’ll see that it is a worthwhile investment to implement into your life.

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Being Giddy In Life

You don`t see? I`m distracted! I love the days when I am happy for no apparent reason. It is a day where I wake up and I smile. I think about nothing negative in the world and forget about all the stresses of the upcoming day or weeks. I don’t think about the troubles that are out of my control and I just exude this aura of happiness. Can you imagine living every day like this? I know it’s tough to imagine in this society of ours, but we should aspire to do this every single day. It makes us brighter human beings and provides more excitement in our lives. Being “giddy” in life should be routine. Here are some ways we can get to that level.

Learn to smile. Embrace the wonderful teeth that you have and turn that frown upside down. Even if you don’t think you have much to smile for, this act can help with changing that mindset. Smiling can be a way to trick the mind and change the way it acts. It’ll emit more positive hormones and create a better you.

Laugh randomly from time to time. Like smiling, pure laughter can brighten up your day. Think about a funny situation that occurred in your life and let that laughter flow. Hang around with funny friends and get them to make you chuckle. Laughter is contagious and it makes you forget about everything you have going on in your life.

Embrace the present moment. Stop worrying about things you can not control. I like to think of the phrase, “it is what it is”. If negative troubles affect you, then figure out ways to stop thinking about it. The idea of being giddy is not to give a care in the world about problems. You shouldn’t let one idea or one issue tie you down because that isn’t why we were placed on this Earth. Focus on the here and now. You’ll start to see that it’ll become easier to be happy.

Understand that it’s important to share your enthusiasm with the world. Look, you are alive right now, reading this. You have been given a gift of existence. Share your potential with everyone you meet and aim to put a smile on their face. It doesn’t help with your life or anyone else’s just to mope around. This is why sad people can be challenging to hang out with because they can bring the mood down. Make it a purpose to be happy and show your enthusiasm for life.

Get giddy in life because it is one of the best ways to open up your life and see happiness bloom. People will want to hang around with happy and fun individuals because it creates warmth with each another. Don’t let the troubles of the world bring you down because you deserve much more than that. Use these tips and one day you will wake up laughing and smiling randomly as well.

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Separate Your Work Life from Your Personal One

Work life versus personal lifeOne of the most important thing I learn in life is to make sure I take care of myself. A way to do that is to separate your work from your personal life. The reason I say this is because work adds stress to our lives. We have responsibilities we need to manage and encounter problems we have to solve. It is supposed to be challenging, hectic and demanding. Why would you want that in your personal life? To avoid the pain and hardships of dealing with stress 24/7, I find it is crucial that we switch off work mode upon arriving home.

Unless you are super-famous and inherited a lot of money, most people have to go to work to make the hard-earned cash. They toil about their day and resolve any issues that arise. These can range from tiny problems to gargantuan ones. You work all day to make sure everything is settled and by the end of the day, all you should want to do is relax and sip a glass of wine. This is the way life should be and how I imagine people taking care of themselves.

It should be a habit when you get home to switch off your e-mail and to ignore work-related communication. Unless you are working in a field where life and death depend on your response, then most issues can wait until the following day. I’ve been an advocate of calling someone in the event of an emergency as opposed to e-mails. We get caught up in trying to answer everything as soon as it pops up that we create this impression that we are too reliable and reachable. By allowing e-mails to infiltrate your personal life, you’ll be mixing work into it and it will cause confusion.

Bonds are important to form between your colleagues at work. But unless it becomes a strong friendship to warrant it, I usually do not choose to hang out with them outside of work. I see them as my co-workers and are people I can depend on to help me problem solve. I do not see them as people I should date or be best buddies. The reason for this is that if something were to go awry in the relationship outside of work, it can create an awkward work environment to go to every single day.

Your life should not be about your work. People too often bring work home and stress themselves further, despite their work hours being over. This is not the way to go about life. You’ll only end up giving yourself ulcers and it will become hard to manage. Take the time slowly to keep everything you need to do at work separate from everything else in life. In doing so, you’ll find that you will be more relaxed and have more energy the next time you come into the office.

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The Negatives Aspects of This World

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI love life. I think people take it for granted too often. I like to think of ourselves as miracles because we truly are. When I wake up every morning, I am grateful to be alive. To exist in a world where we are surrounded by other like-minded individuals and to cohabitate is mesmerizing. Yet while I am enjoying this world I live in and the people I get to hang out with, there are some aspects of this world that infuriate me and reminds me that not everything is as peachy as one would hope.

The first thing that comes to mind is murder. I can not comprehend the idea that someone can be so despicable and angry with life that they are willing to take the life of another human being. We are all granted with one chance and to be denied living that life is depressing to think about. You hear of stories in the news about wives being killed by their estranged husbands or hostages being tortured and brutally murdered. It makes me sick to my stomach that these people exist and it seems impossible to go without a day without death due to the hands of another individual.

What usually precedes a murder is hatred. We should be living in a world where we can accept each other’s differences, but that seems unlikely. People have varying degrees of opinions ranging from topics such as lifestyle, religion, race and these issues conflict with one another. We can see racism, homophobia, hate for other religions, and total disrespect in our streets every day. It’s absurd that we can’t live peacefully with each other and are more focused on our differences rather than our similarities.

I tend to put a focus on how we physically hurt one another, but we also hurt the planet we live on. There is a total disregard for the environment and its inhabitants. People are willing to litter on the street and not pick up after themselves. You see trash in the ocean of our beautiful blue planet. Are we supposed to sit back and see trash pile up and ruin our water supply? This goes back to how people can be selfish and focused only on themselves and do not consider their place on this planet. We need to be more mindful of the ways we are harming our environment because it will come back to bite us in the ass.

The world is a beautiful place. I see happiness, enthusiasm, and good intentions every day. But it’s hard to focus on that at times when you know that on the opposite end, the truly bad exist as well. As much as we would not like to dwell on the negative aspects of this planet, we need to be mindful that they do exist. If we can get people to go from being angry to happy, the world will see less and less of these issues. But that will take time and, unfortunately, that is one commodity we are wasting. Let’s make better use of it and help change the world.

Why What Other People Think Shouldn’t Matter

People around usWe will always be judged for our actions and the decisions we make. These are the facts of life. People will find a way to compare themselves to you and what they would have done if they were in your shoes. In the end, keep in mind that they are not in your shoes and therefore not living your life. That said their opinion and belief should have little impact on what you personally want to do.

Too often we allow our self-esteem to be attacked. We receive criticism and feel inferior as a result. We let our negative mentality get into our heads and second-guess our decisions. If we end up making a poor decision, it can make us feel incompetent and unsure of ourselves. It’s unfortunate we beat ourselves down in this manner because not only is it self-deprecating but unhealthy.

To avoid feeling this way, learn not to care about what people say about you. Give yourself credit and stand by the choices you make. If you make a choice and it results into a bad outcome, then learn from that mistake and grow as an individual. There is no use dwelling on a poor decision and letting it make you sad because it doesn’t help the situation. If you pick yourself up and accept the mistake, then you retain your self-worth and won’t feel incompetent.

People will judge you by the way you dress and how you look. If they criticize you, shrug it off and be bold and confident. If you like what you are wearing then don’t let negative criticism affect your mind. There are people out there who will bring others down and you have the option of dwelling on it or just laugh about what they said and hold yourself in high regards.

There is a difference between being judged and being offered advice. I suggest that any advice from a friend be welcomed with open arms. You shouldn’t close yourself off to someone who provides a way to improve yourself. We should all be seeking improvement in ourselves. However, if an advice feels pushy and you feel strong against it then that is a sign for you to be adamant and tell your friends what YOU want to do. Do not let someone giving advice pressure you into doing something that isn’t you. Otherwise, you are changing something about yourself because someone told you to do it.

We will go through life with eyes glaring at us and looked at from head to toe. It is an uneasy feeling knowing that there are people who are not content with themselves and in order to feed their low self-esteem, they resort to criticizing others. Don’t play that game. Be bold and stand tall. Become proud of who you are and what you do. Ultimately, you’ll be happier with yourself and how you did not conform to the ideals of others.

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When Life Gets You Lonely

Loneliness Being in a state of loneliness is one of the toughest things to overcome. Even when we are surrounded by friends, family and loved ones, we may still battle loneliness. It’s an incredibly sad feeling because you have this impression that no one cares for you and that you have to endure life all by yourself. What is dangerous about feeling this way is that it brings a lot of negative thoughts into your mind; thoughts that can destroy confidence and your sense of worth. People attribute the feeling of loneliness to suicide and drug abuse. As a result, it is crucial to ensure that you get the help that you need, if loneliness slowly creeps into your life and stay there.

The happiest people in the world can be some of the loneliness. I for example carry a bright smile on my face whenever possible. My friends and family see me as a cheery individual but the truth is, the smile is usually a mask to hide some of the pain I feel in my life. Some days I feel like no one likes me. My social anxiety overwhelms my common sense. Eventually it gets to a point where I am laying in bed, alone and wanting to cry because it seems like nothing is going right with my life. But when those thoughts and feelings fade, I find myself back to my perky self. My loneliness comes in random bouts, which makes it difficult to plan and deal with.

If you are someone who gets into these random feelings as well, there are some steps you can take to try to get you out of that slump:

1. Take the time to hang out with family and friends — surrounding yourself with the people you love is truly the best way to combat these emotions. Play a game with your friends or have a fun conversation with people you trust. Opening yourself up about how you feel can take the burden off of your shoulders and make your relationships stronger. You might find that other people can relate to your same predicament.

2. Invest your emotional energy into your hobbies — Find a hobby that you enjoy doing and incorporate your emotions into it. If you are an artist, paint a picture depicting how you feel. If you are a filmmaker, write a screenplay describing your character’s anguish. If you like to play sports, use the game as a way to relieve stress. It is important to redirect your negative energy rather than dwell on how it makes you feel. It is important for the mind to get a break from negative energy since it is poison and focusing too much on it can break us down.

3. Write — Sometimes the best way to combat this loneliness is to put it all down on paper. If your friends and family are not available and you are struggling, write down exactly how you feel. Channel all that energy into your pen and paper and see where it takes you. Some of the most innovative minds have written great novels and creative pieces during times when they were fighting with themselves internally. After you have written something, it is a great way to read about your thoughts and how you felt during loneliness. It can help you in finding ways to get out of it in the future. Detailing your emotional pain is a great way to make you aware of what is troubling you and can lay the groundwork for improving your life.

Loneliness is no laughing matter. It can cripple even the most strong-willed of characters. It takes an emotional toll on your mind and becomes dangerous the longer it persists. Whenever the emotions start to crawl into your life, be mindful of the thought and take steps to get rid of it as soon as possible. It’s all in your head. Don’t let it get bigger.

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