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Loneliness – Tips To Get Over The Hump

Never say you are lonely with so many people around you!Being lonely can have a negative effect on the way you live your life. Not knowing if people really care about you can make you feel alone and affect your mentality. Whenever you start to feel lonely, it becomes important to get your mind out of this state and realize that you are never alone. There will always be someone out there who care about you, whether you believe it or not. Many of us struggle with the feeling of helplessness and allow our mind to shut us down. Don’t let the thought of loneliness break you.

Being social is an effective way of stopping the loneliness. You need to think about all the friends and family you have and the experiences you’ve shared together. Take out your phone and call someone close to you. Make an effort to learn more about them and their own life. Reminisce about old times and enjoy laughing together. Being in a setting where you get to spend time with another person is a surefire way to stop your mind from thinking about loneliness.

Don’t shut yourself in your room. Head out into the world. Hike or explore the city with your friends. Exposing yourself to your surroundings and the world can open your eyes to Earth’s wonders. We can feel trapped living inside our home and we need to avoid this by finding an escape. Nature can provide that exit.

When we are in a state of loneliness, our mind is fixed on this sad emotion and depressive state. To counteract feeling this way, we need to distract ourselves. This can mean reading a book or watching a television show you are invested in. Find something you enjoy doing and dive into it and forget your worries. Use your activity as a source of pleasure and you’ll find that you won’t remember being lonely.

Another thing that can be done is clearing your mind. Learn to meditate and erase the thoughts that keep persisting. Sit in silence and try to not think about anything. The more you focus on how unhappy you are, the harder it can be to get away from that feeling. Meditation will calm your mind and lets you focus in peace.

Loneliness can be tough and I recommend that those struggling with it to go out and seek help. Find solace in spending time with the people you care about because it will make a difference in overcoming this challenging feeling. We shouldn’t live in a world where we are sad all the time because it can lead us down a dangerous path. We need to enjoy the love and life all around us. Loneliness has no place in it.

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Overcoming Random Bouts Of Sadness

Sadness control Sadness can hit me hard. One moment I can be on top of the world and the next, I question my worth. I don’t know why our emotions feel like this, but it can make living life challenging. I figure this is why so many people struggle on this planet. Sadness overtakes them. It becomes a manifestation of what they think their life is currently like. They think there is no hope for defeating their sadness. But there is hope! There is a way to fight it. It all comes down to being grateful for what you have in your life and not thinking twice about it.

Depression and loneliness often get to me when I feel sad about my status in life. This might mean that my career is not going the way I had it planned or there has been a tragedy that struck my family life. When you are encountering this feeling, reflect back on what is currently going on in your life and ask yourself why you are feeling this way. Is it because you are stressed about something going on? Is something not going as planned and, as a result, do you feel incompetent? By recognizing the triggers in your life to cause this loneliness, you will find that you can have an easier time readjusting your mindset so that you can avoid feeling that way.

A huge part of avoiding sadness is to recognize what it is you have in your life. This boils down to the term gratitude. We tend to think that everything in our life is going awry and that there is no way out. But by readjusting your attention to what you do have currently, it makes everything else seem less important. You can build your happiness from the things you have currently and get your mindset away from the thinking of what you don’t have. We all want things to happen quickly, but life doesn’t work that way. You have to sometimes be able to let go and let life happen and enjoy what you presently have.

A method I use to help me out when I feel sad is to randomly text a friend and tell them how I feel. It’s not that I want them to feel my burden but more as a way to let them know that I am struggling and that hearing from them makes me happy. Having a strong support group can do wonders to your mental state because not only will it show you the friends you have in your life but you can see that people close to you can struggle as well. People may end up texting you asking for support and you can feel value in that. But reach out to people you care about and ask for help. It’s not a sign of weakness but a sign of courage.

Depression, sadness, loneliness are awful feelings to endure. It seems like everything is working against you and there’s no way out. But there is! Cling on to hope and don’t fear what you don’t currently have. A lot of people are unhappy with how their life is going and it boils down to making sure that you are aware that not everyone has everything at the right moment. By understanding this, you will slowly start to get out of your sad hump and become a better and stronger person.

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Overcoming Sadness

What to do when I'm sad?We’ve all been in the position of feeling sad. It can happen as a result of an event or it can pop up on us. When it does hit, we all know the horrific feeling. Who wants to feel sad? No one chooses that emotion. But sometimes, when our sadness is too overbearing we can feel hindered. We may stop doing the things we love and have a difficult time adjusting. If a bout of sadness starts to overtake you, here are some things you should consider doing.

When I am sad, I just have to let my feelings go. I let it all out. But rather than talk to a wall, I pick up the phone and call a friend or family member. Usually, I have these resources to rely on and they are all more than willing to lend a listening ear. This is what friends and family are for and it is important that you utilize them. Pick someone you trust and just unleash your emotional feelings onto them. It doesn’t make sense to keep everything inside of you because it will only cause you to spiral.

Doing the things you love is a crucial part of keeping the sadness away. Distract yourself by playing a sport or taking up a new hobby. The more you love doing something, the more you will forget about the troubles that plague your mind. You have a boatload of recreational activities to choose from in life and it would be a shame if you choose to sit on the sidelines and not actively engage in a new hobby.

Try scouring the web for motivational quotes or messages from leaders. Reading them can boost your morale and make you realize that not all is bad in your life. Consider what the quotes means and how it can help you if you were to apply it to your life. There are an abundant of inspirational messages throughout the internet that can give you the lift that you need.

Feeling sad is common. The people you think are the happiest can sometimes be the saddest. But this does not mean you have to allow the feeling to overcome you. There are many things in life to be grateful for and there are ways to push that sadness to the back of your mind. You just have to want to get rid of your sadness. Get help and relief when you need it. Don’t let sadness suck your soul.

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How To Rebound From Life

You gotta feel great!Getting into a slump feels awful. Things aren’t going the way you plan and the path to success seems long and drawn out. Everything is working against you and as you try to change the tide, it keeps pushing you back. When you feel life isn’t going your way, it can be hard to not get down on yourself. You may carry this impression that you are the only one that faces this problem, but the reality is that the people around you may be struggling as well. Here is some advice for when you feel down on your luck and need to find a way to rebound from life.

Think About What You Have – Gratitude is key when you feel like everything is going haywire. Understand that you have been given another day in life to improve yourself and to get back onto your feet. You may not be in an ideal situation but another day should feel like a blessing and you should cherish it. The new day provides another opportunity to succeed and allow you to make different choices for the upcoming day. Embrace the positives in your life and use that as a source of inspiration to make you smile. It takes gratitude to turn your negative mindset into an optimistic one.

Hang Out With Friends  – Surrounding yourself with loyal friends and people you can depend on will make a huge difference. We forget there are people around us who care for us deeply and value the friendships formed. It is hard to remember this when we are in so much pain but don’t be afraid to seek out help. Have dinner and use the time to socialize with the people you care about. Don’t allow a stroke of bad luck to make you forget your friends. By hanging out with likeable people, you can ease the pain you feel.

Understand That This Shall Pass – It’s hard to think about the future when you have so much going on in your life. But ultimately come to the conclusion that the pain will pass and you’ll find yourself back on your two feet sooner than later. It makes sense that your hurting now and want to give up but know that no one is immune to the feeling of pain. Recognize that you have endured a lot in the past but you still survived. Think of this time as a fleeting moment and it will be over before you know it.

Enduring hardships is tough. It can seem like you are not able to catch a break and might find yourself comparing your life to others. But the reality is, everyone struggles at some point. Don’t let this moment get you down because you need to realize that you will eventually succeed.

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Unrequited Love – Don’t Let It Manipulate You

Broken heart?Of all the deadly sins, lust is the most dangerous. This is because one of our most valued concept, love, can turn into lust without us realizing. People do irrational things for love. We kill for the ones we love. If someone you didn’t know hurts someone close to you, out of love, you would want to harm done to that person. We have celebrity fans who become fascinated and obsessed with their idols that they become stalkers, hoping for a chance that the celebrity will love them back. I don’t blame them. Sure they’re crazy, but unrequited love is one of the toughest aspects of life. Ultimately, however, it is important to reclaim your thoughts and not let your lust for someone control you and shape you into a person you’re not.

Unrequited love affects us in several ways. The first is that it lowers our self-esteem. Finding love is a two-step process. First, you have to be attracted to the person. Second, they have to be attracted to you. Now if it only goes one way, then one side is going to feel pretty damn awful. In dealing with the rejection, you question your attractiveness and become more willing to pointing out your negative qualities.

Your fascination and desire for a person may grow when they become someone you know you can’t have. This is the part of life when love turns into lust. When we realize we can’t have something, our cravings for it grow stronger. No longer are they seen as a crush but rather a prize we seek. Getting them to love you becomes a challenge; one we think we can accomplish.  As a result, we end up doing things we normally would not do.

Our rationality is challenged when we come face to face with unrequited love. In order to appease our crushes, we may do things that is unlike us. We could participate in hobbies that we may not like; try to gain an acquired taste for food we normally do not eat; force ourselves into social groups of friends to be closer to the person. We think that by molding ourselves into a person with similar qualities, we will become more attractive to them. Unfortunately, this will only cause you to lose your identity and a sense of who you are.

It’s not worth it. Sure unrequited love sucks but erasing your identity is worse and can feel shameful. By lusting and fawning over someone you know will never love you back, you are essentially relinquishing your self-worth and self-control. You are telling another person that they can manipulate you into doing whatever, as long as you are with them. It’s harsh but is losing your dignity worth the lust? Probably not. With so many people out there looking for love, you are bound to find someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated.

With that said, I want to leave you with a quote I found while scouring the web.

“Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.”

Have faith that love will come. And give up on your unrequited love because it makes no sense to seek it.

Happy Valentines Day.

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When Life Gets You Lonely

Loneliness Being in a state of loneliness is one of the toughest things to overcome. Even when we are surrounded by friends, family and loved ones, we may still battle loneliness. It’s an incredibly sad feeling because you have this impression that no one cares for you and that you have to endure life all by yourself. What is dangerous about feeling this way is that it brings a lot of negative thoughts into your mind; thoughts that can destroy confidence and your sense of worth. People attribute the feeling of loneliness to suicide and drug abuse. As a result, it is crucial to ensure that you get the help that you need, if loneliness slowly creeps into your life and stay there.

The happiest people in the world can be some of the loneliness. I for example carry a bright smile on my face whenever possible. My friends and family see me as a cheery individual but the truth is, the smile is usually a mask to hide some of the pain I feel in my life. Some days I feel like no one likes me. My social anxiety overwhelms my common sense. Eventually it gets to a point where I am laying in bed, alone and wanting to cry because it seems like nothing is going right with my life. But when those thoughts and feelings fade, I find myself back to my perky self. My loneliness comes in random bouts, which makes it difficult to plan and deal with.

If you are someone who gets into these random feelings as well, there are some steps you can take to try to get you out of that slump:

1. Take the time to hang out with family and friends — surrounding yourself with the people you love is truly the best way to combat these emotions. Play a game with your friends or have a fun conversation with people you trust. Opening yourself up about how you feel can take the burden off of your shoulders and make your relationships stronger. You might find that other people can relate to your same predicament.

2. Invest your emotional energy into your hobbies — Find a hobby that you enjoy doing and incorporate your emotions into it. If you are an artist, paint a picture depicting how you feel. If you are a filmmaker, write a screenplay describing your character’s anguish. If you like to play sports, use the game as a way to relieve stress. It is important to redirect your negative energy rather than dwell on how it makes you feel. It is important for the mind to get a break from negative energy since it is poison and focusing too much on it can break us down.

3. Write — Sometimes the best way to combat this loneliness is to put it all down on paper. If your friends and family are not available and you are struggling, write down exactly how you feel. Channel all that energy into your pen and paper and see where it takes you. Some of the most innovative minds have written great novels and creative pieces during times when they were fighting with themselves internally. After you have written something, it is a great way to read about your thoughts and how you felt during loneliness. It can help you in finding ways to get out of it in the future. Detailing your emotional pain is a great way to make you aware of what is troubling you and can lay the groundwork for improving your life.

Loneliness is no laughing matter. It can cripple even the most strong-willed of characters. It takes an emotional toll on your mind and becomes dangerous the longer it persists. Whenever the emotions start to crawl into your life, be mindful of the thought and take steps to get rid of it as soon as possible. It’s all in your head. Don’t let it get bigger.

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